The Fear Code is my favorite and most effective process for achieving extraordinary results in my life.
The essence of it is…whenever I have a fear I have to share it.
THE PROCESS goes like this:
But I want to share 4 reasons why I don’t think this is a waste of time, by sharing…
4 TAKEAWAYS from using the fear code:
… this actually does help me get things done and they are usually very important aspects of my life …… probably due to the fact that they actually scare me.
I’ve used this code to date people that I thought were “out of my league” or OBVIOUSLY not interested in me (when they actually were), get paid way more per hour than I thought I was worth (it feels good to know others value me more than I value myself), and have some pretty killer conversations.
Starting with asking if you can share a fear puts the other person on your side. It’s harder for them to get defensive because they are already in a mindset of wanting to help you defeat your fear.
This can be very powerful…be very careful and do NOT abuse it or it will hurt you in the long run.
My fear is in sharing this information with you…not in your response. So you can say “yes or no” and either one is perfect because you are already helping me defeat my fear just by letting me share it with you.
This is an important disclaimer if you think the other person might be influenced to answer a particular way, rather than speaking their truth.
For example, if I ask someone out on a date, this is important because I don’t want them to feel like they have to say yes. The fear was in asking them out, not in the response they give. So they are free to answer either way and they’ve already helped me defeat my fear.
The funny part is, I know from testing it…
I’m definitely wrong about being wrong, way more often than I’m right…
…and things have a much greater chance of happening than I realize, if I just ask for them.
Although, I do have decent intuition in some areas of my life, when it comes to things I’m scared of, my intuition is way worse than I thought it was, so instead of blindly trusting it, I just test it.
Here’s a test for teachers…when I say “you can be a world class dance instructor”, do you say “cool, how?” or do you let fears and negative thoughts tell you “no way, not me”?
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What do you think about the Fear Code? Have you ever tried something similar? Share your thoughts in the comments below.
If this method doesn’t work for you, here are 33 more ways to overcome fear.